A problem is that I am praying for a righteous husband but nothing happened. I have read many articles on when dua is accepted more (last third of nite, Ramadan etc.). I find it very difficult to be patient for my dua to supplicated. As I am praying for 7 years for marriage with a suitable Muslim partner. but there are no prospects since we live in a place where there no Muslims. how do i maintain patience for something for which i do not?
Praise be to Allah. and blessings and peace be upon the Messenger of Allah.
Fear Allah:
We advise you to fear Allah. and to bear patiently the thing with which you are tested. and to have certain faith that with a problem comes a way out and with difficulty comes ease.
It is better for you to move to a country where there are lots of Muslims. So to increase your chances of marriage to someone who is righteous and pious.
You should not be anxious about a matter that is decreed and written. Because you will not get anything other than that which Allah decreed for you. Because How many women in the Muslim countries who pass the age of thirty and forty without getting married? and there are some who reached this age and then got married.
Dua is a Powerful Tool:
Du’aa’ is a powerful weapon for those who are able to use it. So pray to Allah and be certain that Allah will respond. and seek the means of having your du’aa’ accepted, such as eating and drinking only things which are good (halaal). and choosing the good times to make du’aa’. Beware of seeking a speedy response, for the Prophet (PBUH) said:
“The du’aa’ of any one of you will be answered so long as he does not seek to hasten it, and does not say, ‘I made du’aa’ but I had no answer.’” ( by al-Bukhari, 5865; Muslim, 2735, from the hadith of Abu Hurayrah).
Benefits of Dua:
Know that a person’s dua’ is never wasted. and it benefits him in all situations. as in the hadith by al-Tirmidhi from Abu Hurayrah, who said: “The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said:
‘There is no man who prays to Allah and makes dua’ to Him, and does not receive a response. Either it will be hastened for him in this world. or it will be stored up for him in the Hereafter. so long as he does not pray for something sinful, or to cut the ties of kinship, or seek a speedy response.’
They said, ‘O Messenger of Allah, what does seeking a speedy response mean?’ He said, ‘Saying,
“I prayed to my Lord and He did not answer me.”’” (Al-Tirmidhi, 3859; classed as sahih by al-Albaani in Sahih al-Tirmidhi, 852).
Know that if you die chaste and you are a virgin, you will have a great reward with Allah. and whatever you missed out on in this world, you will not miss out in the Hereafter. if you adhere steadfastly to the truth. There is nothing wrong with expressing your wishes to some of your Muslim sisters by mail or e-mail. so that they can help you to find a righteous husband through them.
We ask Allah to grant you a way out soon and to bless you with a righteous husband in whom you will find delight. And Allah is the Source of strength.And Allah knows best.
Source: Islamqa
P.S :
Sisters I know We all worried about our marriage as it completes half of our Deen and save Us from all kind of Fitnas. But it is not in our hands. All we can is do our humanly efforts, make dua and TRUST ALLAH.Use this time in something productive.You know when famous scholars imprisoned they wrote books in jail.They did the best they could do of and utilize that time. and in our case we know we surely will get righteous partner who will help us get closer to our Deen Insha’ Allah. but till that time comes we should do as much as we can because after marriage, life is much much busy.
Use your time in Good Deeds:
So memorize Quran, be more good to parents after marriage we cant get much time to be with them. So give your best to them till you are with them Insha’ Allah.We can utilize more of our precious time by listening to Islamic Lectures, attending Dawah workshops, fasting our missed fasts. and when done with those we can fast Sunnah and Nawafeel fasts(after marriage we cant offer sunnah and nawafeel fasts without our husband’s permission).Reading Islamic books, doing DAWAH. Taking Islamic courses. Insha’Allah 🙂
I hope and pray that it will be beneficial for me and for you all.. 🙂
May ALLAH( swt) bless all our sisters unmarried, divorced or widowed with righteous husbands. aameen.
“Al-Khabithaatu lil Khabitheena Wa Al-Khabithoona lil-Khabithaati Wa At-Tayyibeena Wa At-Tayyiboona lil Tayyibaati” {Bad Women are for Bad Men and Bad Men are for Bad Women.And Good/Pious Women are for Good/Pious Men and Good/Pious Men are for Good/Pious Women.}[SURAH AN-NOOR:26]
Bad statements are for bad people (or bad women for bad men). and bad people for bad statements (or bad men for bad women). Good statements are for good people (or good women for good men) and good people for good statements (or good men for good women). such (good people) are innocent of (every) bad statement which they say; for them is forgiveness, and Rizqun Karim (generous provision i.e. Paradise).
( Surah An-Noor, Chapter #24, Verse #26).
And Sisters, please share it with your unmarried sisters….
