Marriage in Islam has a great impact on our social and religious lives. The social organization or institution of Marriage is one of the most influential social organizations for marriage counseling. These social organizations serve as a foundation for other social systems like home and family which play a crucial part in shaping up the lives of individuals as well as the society on the whole.
Owing to its importance, Islam has given great importance to these social organizations or institutions of marriage. It has been considered the most delicate yet most blessed relationship among human beings in Islam.
This hadeeth perfectly explains the importance of marriage in Islam in the following words;
قالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ (صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلّمَ): ما بُنِيَ بِناءَ فِي الإِسْلامِ أَحَبُّ إِلى اللهِ عَزَّ وَجَلّ مِنَ التَّزْوِيجِ.
The Messenger of Allah (S) said,
“No foundation has been built in Islam more loved by Allah, (The Greatest and Noblest) than marriage.”
Not only ALLAH has blessed this institution of marriage in Islam, but Allah himself has guided about the conduct of this relationship in the Quran in the following words;
وَأَنْكِحُوا الْأَيَامَىٰ مِنْكُمْ وَالصَّالِحِينَ مِنْ عِبَادِكُمْ وَإِمَائِكُمْ ۚ إِنْ يَكُونُوا فُقَرَاءَ يُغْنِهِمُ اللَّهُ مِنْ فَضْلِهِ ۗ وَاللَّهُ وَاسِعٌ عَلِيمٌ
“Marry the single people from among you and the righteous slaves and slave-girls. If you are poor, Allah (SWT) will make you rich through His favor; and Allah (SWT) is Bountiful, All-Knowing.” (Surah 24, Verse 32)
Marriage in Islam and Excuses for not being Married:
Here, Allah (SWT) gave us another essential hint about one of the greatest fears related to marriage, the fear of money.
The majority of youngsters of this generation present this excuse for staying single ” But I’m not stable yet,” ” But I have goals in my life,” ” how am I gonna provide for her ? my business is not strong enough to support a family.”
For these excuses, ALLAH has beautifully explained that it’s not you who provides, and neither it is your responsibility. It’s the responsibility of ALLAH and here ALLAH communicates in clear words. That those who fear hunger and money should get married and ALLAH will take care of their financial matters. That’s why marriage in Islam has great importance.
This point can better understand by comparison of a person who works and maintains his personal life as well by himself with a person who is focused on his business or job because he has someone to take care of the rest of his particular needs. Of course, the person with a companion will be in a better situation.
What Allah Says”
ALLAH says in Surah 30 verse 21;
وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُمْ مِنْ أَنْفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُمْ مَوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً ۚ إِنَّ فِي ذَٰلِكَ لَآيَاتٍ لِقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ
“And of His signs is that He has created spouses for yourselves from your selves so you might take comfort in them and He has created love and mercy among both of you. In this, there is evidence (of the truth) for the people who (carefully) think.” (Surah 30, Verse 21).
So the institution of marriage in Islam doesn’t provide you only with partnership but rather with companionship. This verse says that the spouse gets “comfort” from each other. And then it ends with a note “search for signs, think.”
How many dimensions of comfort from your spouse can you count?