Freedom of Choice
“Do not prevent them from marrying their husbands when they agree between themselves in a lawful manner.”
Process of Spouse Selection:
The process of spouse selection should be a method of a healthy balance between the freedom of choice of the would-be-spouses and consideration of the influence and approval of their parents. The freedom of choice of those who wish to get married should not rule the influence and approval of the parents nor should the parents ignore the wishes and consent of the spouses to be.
After the age of teen, a male who is baligh and sane has full rights to decide about his own marriage. If a father refuses the proposal of a suitable man for no valid reason, then the religious judge can over-ride this decision.
Since marriage is a union between two people and their families, it is important for parents to understand the needs of their children and allow them to be with suitable spouses of their choice.
Hazrat Muhammad (S.A.W.W) said:
“When one of you seeks a woman in marriage. and then if he is able to have a look at whom he wishes to marry, let him do so.”
Falling in love is not a pre-condition for marriage in Islam. However, for the purpose of selecting an appropriate mate. the would-be-spouses are allowed to see or talk to each other within Islamic limits. Forced marriages are against in Islam and they pose a danger to your children’s future.
“No man has the right to be in the privacy with a woman who is not lawful for him. Satan is their third party unless there is a mahram.”
ALLAH’s most high will grant us all for whom we may wish. As ALLAH paak says in the Quran:
“And we created you in pairs.”