A man was an avid Gardner..
Saw a small butterfly laying a few eggs in one of the pots in his garden. Since that day he looked at the egg with ever growing curiosity and eagerness.
The egg started to move and shake a little. This was a sight of excitement for him as he was witnessing a new life coming up right in front of his eyes. He spent hours watching the egg now.
At last the long waited moment came, It started to expand and develop cracks. A tiny head and antennae started to come out ever so slowly.
Prepare Our Children For The Emergence of Life:
The Gardner’s excitement knew no bounds. He got his magnifying glasses and sat to watch the life and body of a pupa coming out.
Then he observed the struggle of the tender pupa and couldn’t resist his urge to HELP.
He went and got a tender forceps to help the egg break, a nip here a nip there to help the struggling life.
The pupa was out and the man was ecstatic!
Now he waited each day for the pupa to grow and fly like a beautiful butterfly,
but Alas that never happened !
the larvae pupa had a over sized head and kept crawling along in the pot for the full 4 weeks and died!
Depressed the man went to his botanist friend and inquired the reason.
His friend told him,
the struggle to break out of the egg helps the larvae to send blood to its wings.
and the head push helps the head to remain small. so that the tender wings can support it through its 4 week life cycle,
But In his eagerness to help the man destroyed a beautiful life!
Because Struggles help all of us, that’s why a wee bit of effort goes a long way to develop our strength to face life’s difficulties!
As parents, we sometimes go too far trying to help and protect our kids from life’s harsh realities and disappointments.So, We don’t want our kids to struggle like we did. In all this pampering, some times we forget to prepare our children for upcoming challenges. So, Being a muslim parents, our duty doubles. And We have to prepare our children not only for the challenges of society but also for the spiritual challenges. we often show leniency in waking or kids up for fajar, thinking that it would be a bit hard for them to wake up so early “he is just a little kid and needs sleep”,” but he offers all other prayers and would offer fajar prayer too when he grows up a little”.
But Harvard psychiatrist Dr. Dan Kindlon says that over-protected children are more likely to struggle in relationships and with challenges.
So, We’re sending our kids the message that they’re not capable of helping themselves.
To quote clinical psychologist Dr. Wendy as a moral i would conclude saying that ;
“It is Our Job to prepare Our Children for the Road…,
Not prepare the road
for Our Children…”